Father Cutie, a priest who finds it difficult to avoid temptation, put himself in the way of temptation. He focused on relationships and ministered to those in a society that, shall we say, doesn’t firmly believe in clothing. At first it looked as though he had got caught up in being a media darling and made a mistake.
Now? We learn that Cutie’s in love. With a single mother. Please pray for him. He has a tough road ahead of him, no matter what happens. He promised his celibacy to God and, at the very least, he has caused scandal by giving the appearance of having broken that promise. While we know that he has appeared in inappropriate photos and been given a time out, we don’t know if anything more than that has happened. There’s no need to speculate; you’ve had days to do that and are wondering what I can possibly add to this.
It’s common knowledge that a taking a vow of celibacy is a requirement for Catholic priests. That’s how it is. I’m not an expert on discerning a vocation or priestly formation, though I do know that men who go to the seminary aren’t always there for the right reasons. Some are ordained. Some are not.
I have knowledge of a priest who was involved with a single parent. His family strongly influenced him to enter the priesthood, for which he was not a good fit. He had no vocation and ultimately left the church and married the woman. They remained married the rest of his life. Happily? Not necessarily; in order to marry her, he renounced his promise to God. I don’t think that would be easy. It may have contributed to his alcoholism and abuse of his stepsons, who he beat regularly.
Scandal? Why yes, the situation did cause scandal and who bore the brunt of it? Her parents. He was a priest in her hometown, the same town in which her parents continued to live and where they were the target of crank callers and other unpleasantness. Her mother had a mental health breakdown and the stress is believed to have contributed to her father’s death a few months later. The new couple? They moved half a continent away.
Please pray for Father Cutie, the woman with whom he’s in love and also for her children, who are likely to experience fallout no matter how this situation is resolved.